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iQuestions Faculty, Dr. Gary & Barbara Rosberg 
 
 
Question: 
 
What roles do reading the Bible and praying together have in 
marriage? Where do I begin to find the answer?  
 
 
Answer: 
 
BARBARA ROSBERG: What a great question. 
 
DR. GARY ROSBERG: I love that question. See, first of all, you have to 
establish, “Is your marriage a marriage of two? Or, is it a marriage of 
three?” When it‟s a marriage of three, what you‟ve done is you‟ve 
made a conscious decision in a covenant marriage, to invite God into 
that relationship. He wants a relationship with you. 
 
BARBARA: Every one of us might say, “Well, I have a good marriage,” 
or you might even say, “I have an ordinary marriage.” It doesn‟t 
matter where you begin, it matters where you end. If you invite the 
God of the universe, Who created man and woman, Who created the 
institution of marriage to come into your marriage, and we access it 
through prayer; individual prayer, corporate prayer, as a couple and 
then into the family. Imagine this, taking something ordinary, maybe 
taking something ho-hum, or even something good, and making it 
extraordinary. Yes indeed, when we invite the Creator of our hearts, 
our minds, and our lives into our marriage, and we experience more 
and more of Him, can you imagine how great your marriage will 
become? 
 
GARY: You know, I remember the first time I prayed out loud in front 
of Barb. This faith thing was a new idea to me. And we were in a group 
 
 
of people. And they started praying and I started looking around for a 
pastor or something. I mean, who was leading these people? And then 
I remember you said, “Gary, just talk to God.” And I said, “What do 
you mean, „just talk to Him‟?” And she said, “Just talk to Him. He loves 
you. He wants a relationship with you.” So, I remember I took Barb‟s 
hand, and I bowed my head, and I said, “Dear God, I want to know 
you like Barb knows you.” And then I looked up, and she had this little 
tear, and she leaned over and kissed me. And I thought, “Pray, kiss. 
Pray, kiss.” 
 
BARBARA: [laughs] You‟re still doing it. 
 
GARY: Well, I‟m still doing it because prayer took on a new meaning to 
me. See, here‟s the scoop, guys. You may not be good at this. You 
may not have learned it from your dad. But you know what? It‟s okay. 
You don‟t have to be some big, fancy theologian. You just need to talk 
to God. And you know what? You might even take out His manual, 
that‟s the Bible and maybe you read it together. If it‟s uncomfortable 
to do that, then read it separately. But try to grab some time, maybe 
three or four times a week, where you share what you‟re learning.  
 
Now, a lot of you are sitting back, saying, “We‟ve been married 20-25 
years. We‟ve never done this.” Well, a buddy of mine said, “The best 
time to plant an oak tree is 20 years ago, if you want shade. But the 
second-best time is today.”  
 
Why don‟t we plant some oak trees of righteousness? 
 
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