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iQuestions Faculty, Dr. Gary & Barbara Rosberg 
 
 
Question: 
 
How often do married couples have sex? What’s normal and how can 
we figure out what works for us? 
 
 
Answer: 
 
DR. GARY ROSBERG: You know, I like questions about sex because 
I’m glad that God created sex. And you know when you talk about the 
frequency; when a guy wants to know the frequency and the girl 
wants to know the frequency, they go to different sources. You know, 
a woman goes to one of those women’s magazines . . .  
 
BARBARA ROSBERG: Redbook. 
 
GARY: Yeah, Redbook or Cosmo. Something they get at the grocery 
store. The guy wants to go to the Guinness Book of World Records, 
because he wants to really know. 
 
BARBARA: And some things never change. Even when they’re 
grandpas. 
 
GARY: Some things never change. Bottom line is; what’s normal is 
really what is representing your relationship. There are all sorts of 
different things that go into whether or not a person is experiencing 
healthy sex in their marriage. It’s their health; it’s their emotions, 
changes, and even stress. 
 
BARBARA: Absolutely. I think your first question really is answered by 
your last question. And that is; “What’s right for your marriage?” 
 
 
That’s when couples really need to talk about it. Gals talk about it. 
Now, do guys talk about it? 
 
GARY: Barb, we don’t talk much about it. But I’m going to tell you 
something ladies; you need to be a good student of your husband. 
Because, he may not be able to dance, but I’m going to guarantee that 
that guy has got rhythm. And every wife needs to understand her 
husband’s sexual rhythm. He may be an every 48-hour guy or an 
every 72-hour guy, or even an every 24-hour guy. Or a once a week 
kind of guy. And when a woman understands that rhythm, then she 
can understand what’s going to meet his need.  And that’s what 
husbands and wives can do in order to sharpen their service to one 
another. 
 
BARBARA: If your husband is grouchy, irritable, maybe a little bit more 
critical of you, it could be that he needs to release his testosterone. 
And, you are his perfect provision.  Yes, indeed, that’s what marriage 
is all about. That’s the celebrating part of marriage. That’s what you 
want to experience all the years of your life. And the best years are 
ahead for every one of us. We guarantee that as you understand your 
mate, you can have the most vibrant sexual relationship that God has 
planned for you this side of heaven; when you are seeking it 
wholeheartedly with your mate. 
 
RON: And we coach you and encourage you to start today and start by 
talking about it. Experience the needs, express the needs, share with 
each other what it is that you desire in a healthy marriage, because we 
believe that God created it, and it can be fantastic. 
 
 
 
 
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