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iQuestions Faculty, Dr. David Eckman 
 
 
Question: 
 
What kind of accountability group should I get in? 
 
Answer: 
 
When it comes to joining an accountability group, several issues are 
involved. One is the intensity of the problem you’re addressing. There 
is a difference between compulsion and addiction.  
 
In compulsion, the mind is just whirling around some addictive 
behavior. Now, that could be pornography, it could be food, it could be 
heroin, it could be alcohol—but the real telling issue is how much is the 
heart enslaved, how much is the life being damaged.  
 
If there’s tremendous damage coming in, if the cops are showing up at 
the door, get yourself into an accountability group, and get yourself 
into one that meets every evening or every morning, but once a day, 
because the life that you’re in needs to be intervened. The style, the 
lifestyle, that you’re living needs to have an intervention. That being 
the case, to intensively throw yourself into a regular accountability 
group is very, very important.  
 
However, there are a lot of different types of accountability groups. 
Find the one that addresses the issue that you’re struggling with, and 
then secondly, if you can, find one that’s positively-oriented—meaning, 
they’re not only interested in what you may be doing wrong, but 
they’re also interested in the positive pursuit. If it’s a pornography 
group, a positive pursuit of an appreciation of women, a positive 
pursuit of a healthy married relationship, a positive pursuit of life in 
general. 
 
 
 
The positive pursuit is important, because when the heart gets 
preoccupied with simply “not doing wrong,” it becomes more and more 
enslaved. 
 
You’ve got to pursue healthy relationships in your accountability 
group, and you have to pursue the positive. But really, the key 
element is, how serious is the issue you’re struggling with. The more 
serious it is, the more meetings you should be going to during the 
week. 
 
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