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iQuestions Faculty, June Hunt
Question:
I’ve just discovered that I have breast cancer. How can I face this
reality?
Answer:
I remember one particular day when I went to the doctor. I had felt a
lump, and really that was not unusual. I had had a number of lumps
along the way. And yet, on this particular day, my secretary said, “I’m
going with you.” I said, “Oh, you don’t need to do that.”
And she said, “Yes, I do. I’m going with you.” I said, “Really, you don’t
need to come with me.”
She said, “I am coming with you.” She typically wins all arguments,
so she came with me. She said, “I’ll just sit outside and wait. If you
need me for anything, just call me.”
When I went in for the examination, a doctor came in, came back out.
Came in, came back out. Came in, came back out. And I thought,
“Hmm.”
I was told, with the final return of the doctor: “You do have a
malignancy. You will have to have a mastectomy. And you will lose
your hair.” Now, I wasn’t sure what the hair part had to do with the
significance of the cancer. But nevertheless, I started hearing words
that were being spoken. Basically, I was thinking, “Oh no! I’ve got to
be in New York. I’ve got to deal with this whole tragic situation of
9/11.” I was asked to speak in New York for pastors and counselors.
They said, “We need counselors to come in and help us with crisis
counseling.”
And I thought, “I don’t have time for this [cancer]. I can’t stop. I’ve
got to go to New York, because this is a huge national tragedy.” I’m
thinking all of this, and then I thought, “Oh, yes. I forgot. I do know
that when I teach on the topic of terminal illness, you always take
somebody with you if there’s a possibility of a diagnosis of cancer.”
You should have somebody waiting for you, because you’re only going
to hear a few of the words. You’re going to miss well over half of what
is said by the doctor.
So, all of a sudden, I said, “Excuse me. There’s somebody named Kay
in the reception area. Would you mind asking her to come in?” They
bring Kay in. Kay’s got her pad, and I said: “Kay, I have a malignancy,
so we need to get the information of whatever is being said here.”
And, she dutifully writes out whatever is being said, because I was
missing a great deal of what the doctor was saying.
Well, I did have a biopsy. It was proven to be malignant. In fact, I had
two biopsies. As I was in the airport, ready to fly into Baltimore to do a
retreat, and then immediately to go to New York—which they allowed
me to do. I got a call saying, “Oh. You do have two types of cancer—
two entirely different types—and they are on both sides, so you will
have to have a double mastectomy,” which I already planned to do
anyway.
You know the thing that surprised me about the whole thing? (And I
mean, I was really surprised.) I never had fear. I would have thought
that I would have been fearful. But, immediately what came to my
mind—you see, when that doctor told me I had a malignancy, was,
“Oh. This really is a surprise. Nothing in my mother’s background, no
female on her side of the family has had a malignancy. This is a total
surprise.” I had not thought about my father’s side of the family.
But immediately what came to my mind was Philippians 1:20:
“Whether by life or by death, may Christ be exalted in my body.” I
never focused on that scripture before. That was not a key scripture
for me. But all of a sudden, it just popped in, because somewhere it
had been stored in there. And my view was, “Well, whether my time
be long or short, no matter what, I just want to be sure that I am
doing what God wants me to do because of being what He wants me
to be. If my time is short, Lord, may my time be lived truly to
accomplish Your purpose for me.” I knew that God already knew my
last day. In Psalm 129, we read: “All the days ordained for me were
written in your book before one of them came to be.” So, I knew I
couldn’t extend the time for me. God already knew my last day.
So, truthfully, I just had a peace—and everyone around me knew I
had that peace. My friends and family, they were incredible. They
supported me in ways I never could have dreamed. I learned so much.
In fact, I remember telling my audience—the audience I have on a
radio program called “Hope in the Night”—I would tell what was going
on. All of a sudden, I had all these people calling. I never had all these
calls before on cancer. But, all these people were calling, wondering
how to handle this, how to handle that.
Well, I was just in the midst of the journey, but I saw that there was a
whole mission opportunity, if you will, a whole ministry that I had not
had before. Because, you see, I never before had cancer.
Let me tell you one thing that was helpful. I learned the value of going
with someone when they’re going to have chemotherapy. That was the
only time I felt this sense of anxiety. It wasn’t fear. I knew what I was
going to have to endure, but there was this feeling of real uneasiness.
And my friends kind of signed up. Different ones signed up to go with
me to different chemo treatments, every three weeks. I finally called
my dear, precious friend Sue. I said, “Sue, please forgive me. I have
to ask your forgiveness”.
And she said, “Honey, there’s nothing you have to ask forgiveness
for.” I said, “Oh, yes there is. I had been insensitive to you. When you
got cancer, I know I wasn’t sensitive. I mean, I thought I was
sensitive, but I wasn’t. What could I have done that would have been
meaningful to you?”
She said, “I wouldn’t have wanted you to have done anything. Your
time is needed in so many ways. . . ” I said, “No, no, no. Wait a
minute. Start over. What could I have done that would have been
meaningful to you?”
“Well, June, you were so busy. . . ” I said, “No, no, no, no. Start over
again. What could I have done that would have been meaningful to
you?
(Long pause)
“Well, if maybe just once you had come with me for chemo. . . ” I
thought, “Oh, how easy that would have been!” I said, “Please forgive
me. I would have done that if I had just known how to be sensitive.”
And she said, “I know you would have.”
I learned the value of going with someone who has to go through
chemo—and I have not forgotten it. As a result of several people now
that I know who have had chemo appeared that first time.
With my friend, I was with her when her oncologist said, “It’s time for
hospice”. And Sue went, “Oh! Really. I guess I need to get my affairs
in order.” She only lived a few weeks more—but it was a privilege to
be with my precious friend Sue. To do whatever I could to let her know
how dearly she was loved.
And I pray that, as you have someone in your life who contracts
cancer, that you also would be able to say, “Oh, God, what could I do
that would be meaningful? What could I do that would be sensitive?”
Specifically ask that question, “What can I do? I want to do something.
Give me something practical to do to help you.”
You know, we’re told: “Bear one another’s burdens, and in this way
you fulfill the law of Christ.” You’re called to bear another’s burdens
when they can’t bear that burden for themselves. And indeed, you will
find that you are blessed, and you will be a blessing.
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