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iQuestions Expert, Doug Rosenau 
 
 
Question: 
 
Are sex toys okay for healthy marital intimacy? 
 
Answer: 
 
Sex toys. Wow! Can they enhance your lovemaking? Yes. It’s 
interesting how they can bring out your creativity and your 
playfulness. 
 
Things like feather dusters, strategically placed mirrors, pillows that 
prop you up, and eating chocolate off of strategic places— my 
goodness, bring out the rubber sheet and the Crisco.   
 
But I oftentimes remind people that sex toys are really props. They are 
not to be the be-all and end-all, or the obsessive focus. They are to 
enhance the lovemaking and just the enjoyment of being together. 
Also, they should never really offend the sensibilities of your mate. 
 
People often will ask me about vibrators, if they addictive, and are 
they OK, and what do I think about vibrators? A couple of quick 
comments: One would be that for some women, vibrators really are 
that necessary stimulation to bring them to an orgasm, and it’s just a 
tremendous prop, a tool, an enjoyable part of their lovemaking.  
 
I know sometimes people are a little careful because husbands realize 
they can’t always duplicate the sensation of the vibrator, and so they 
want at times to use their own manual stimulation and create it 
without the vibrator. But again, I think with sex toys you’re trying not 
to make it the be-all and end-all, and you’re really allowing it to 
enhance the intimacy of your relationship. 
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